The internet is full of advice on how to “improve your social skills”.

Usually, it’ll tell you what to do or say, to increase your odds of getting specific response from others.

But in reality, connection isn’t created by saying the right things (and definitely not by trying to ensure someone gives a desired response).

Connection happens when you’re actually there.

You—just as you are. Them—just as they are.

No tactics. No tricks. Real people, experiencing what happens between them in each new moment as it unfolds.

Fundamentals of Realating is an immersive 12-week online cohort designed to rewire the way we relate—so that ease, depth, presence and authenticity may become your new baseline.

Drawing from Authentic Relating, many other connection practices, and a little bit of my own personal pixie dust, this cohort can help you:

✔ Understand and assert boundaries, needs and desires.

✔ Navigate conflict and emotional intensity with confidence and clarity. Without shutting down or losing yourself.

✔ Learn to listen in a way that makes people feel profoundly understood.

✔ Build deep trust and connection without forcing or faking anything.

✔ Stay connected to yourself while interacting with others—so you don’t have to second-guess yourself in conversations.

✔ Let go of any pressure to say the “right thing”—and instead reveal what’s real, in connection..

✔ Cultivate deeper presence, self-awareness and emotional resilience, even in the face of triggers or uncertainty.

✔ Tap into layers of connection not commonly experienced.

But most of all, you’ll be learning these skills through active practice, play and explorimentation with others.

And the curriculum is simultaneously structured and personalized, in the sense that there’s a clear skill progression (each week’s topics building on the previous), while some of the sessions are specifically adapted to what’s happening in your own social life: Whether that’s about dating, friends or business.

✔ A Deeply Experiential Approach

While every workshop does contain some informational teaching, that’s not the main focus:

Each session is interactive and immersive, designed to change the way you experience relationships—not just how you think about them.

You’ll practice in real-time, with real people, so that these insights become felt and embodied, rather than theoretical.

✔ Rooted in Real Connection, Not Social Tricks

This course isn’t about memorizing techniques or tactics.

Our goal is not to become more “charismatic”, “charming” or “better at small talk” (though those things may still happen).

Instead, we focus on being deeply present—with ourselves, with others, and with whatever is happening.

Because when we do, everything changes. A certain magic happens that is hard to put into words. But if you’ve ever felt it, you know.

✔ Growing Together

If you’ve ever been to free Authentic Relating workshops and fell in love with them, maybe there’s a chance you’ve had this thought:

“Gee, sometimes I wish there could be some sort of progression where every next session goes deeper than the ones before, so I can really build this as skillset.”

That’s exactly what this 12-week structure is for.

Spending time together in a progressive way deepens these skills in a way that stand-alone sessions can’t. The exercises in week 12 wouldn’t make sense to someone in week 1—because you’ll have built a whole new way of relating by then.

And of course, and added benefit is making plenty of deep connections with new friends through the cohort itself.

✔ Real-life Integration

A common experience people have after joining connection trainings is some sort of “connection” hangover. Sometimes followed by a realization:

“Golly, I seem to have all these beautiful connective moments with strangers but when I try to then bring this stuff into my existing relationships, it doesn’t go the same way at all!”

And that’s normal:

Staying present, connected and authentic with other willing participants who are practicing the same things is one thing, doing so “out in the wild” is another.

Yet the people we struggle most staying present with are often the ones closest to our heart. 

Everyone comes in with different patterns, challenges, and triggers. And intimate relationships tend to bring these things to the surface.

That’s why, on top of the main workshops, we have weekly integration calls designed to help you bridge the gap—so that these skills don’t just stay in the training space, but actually reshape your real-world relationships.

✔ Rewiring Instead of “Fixing”

This is not a space to “fix” yourself.

In fact, if anything, you might leave this training feeling even more accepting of the way you already are.

What we’re doing instead is rewiring—building the capacity to see what’s really happening in our interactions and shifting into ways of relating that feel natural, easeful, and true to who we are.